Why are so many people thinking about breaking up after summer holidays? Or Christmas Holidays? Or any holiday for that matter.
You made it through the year. You worked hard. You shed blood sweat and tears for the sacred two weeks by the sea, or wherever you may roam. It should have been two weeks of bliss. The travel brochure was stunning. Happy families and couples in every pic. Even the reviews were mouth-wateringly positive.
You came back home. You survived the summer holidays and the kids are going back to school. Your deep sigh of relief was quickly replaced with the looming reality of going back to work.
And so the rat race continues.
Something clicked inside you. You start visualising the next year. Drained, uninspired and feeling so low you could kiss the underbelly of the rats running around you. You are thinking you cant stand the relationship any longer.
Thinking about breaking up can lead to a path of no return. You need an antidote or at least a moment to sit and gather your thoughts before your next step. Read on to discover where your thinking could lead you:
Whatever time of year it is you and millions of other people are thinking about breaking up. But there are clues to times of the year when there may be a little more competition at the lawyers office.
There are times of year when more people are thinking about breaking up than others. One of the most common times is just after Christmas. As soon as the kids go back to school in January. Did you know there is a Blue Monday (not just the 80's band!) that comes around in January?
It is the third week of the year and called Blue Monday because it is supposed to be the most depressing day of the year.
Want to find ways to avoid the Blue Monday blues?
Just don't get too hung up over number two - which is planning your next vacation!
The third Monday also happens to be a national holiday in the USA to honour Dr Martin Luther King, Jr. Remember his inspirational words? Maybe you have a dream about your future. Are you ready to take the steps to make it happen?
Just because you are thinking about breaking up dent mean you have to. Is that what you truly want?
We all have moments of positive attitude where we feel like we can take on the world and other times when we think we have simply had enough.
What is it for you?
Have you ran out of patience waiting for something?
Has your tolerance or your faith run dry?
Or have either of you been playing around? It isn't always only about them, is it? This is a really important piece of the puzzle.
Let me briefly explain
As a life coach I have frequently been asked if I can help a friend, or a relative of the person who approached me. Or alternatively a person might say their life would be so much better if only some other person changed. That isn't how life coaching works. We only shine the spotlight on you. What you want and what you need to become to get there.
Some people make the mistake of thinking that the big summer holiday will mend a broken relationship. You make a huge commitment to make it the best holiday you ever had. But you find yourself a long way from home. The dream you had becomes a nightmare.
You start ruminating in the thought of "never again."
You know only too well it isn't the holiday that needed to change. Learn how to change your relationship goals.
For married people thinking about breaking up means separation and divorce. The consequences are just as heart breaking for couples in long term relationships.
Just when you think you can get your head around the financial impact of breaking up, the excruciating emotional impact shows up in the shadows!
Need you know more?
Would you like to know how to effortlessly handle the emotional impact of divorce?
There could be good reasons for ending your relationship but what matters most is your desired outcome.
I know people who are going through hell because their partner is thinking about breaking up but they don't really want to.
What would you do? What would you say to them?
If you, or your partner are thinking about breaking up what options do you have?
Before you make the biggest decision of your life:
It could be the most valuable time you spend this year. (See the link below).
Or, follow this link: your life coaching options if you are thinking about breaking up
I cant guarantee to keep you together, but I guarantee that you can keep it together if things fall apart.
Breaking up doesn't have to be painful but it will be emotionally challenging. You got together for a reason.
First things first you need to know and commit to a particular outcome, one way or the other. If you are undecided about breaking up life coaching sessions will help you create goals you can commit to. If you have already decided it's over, it's over. Life coaching sessions will help you re-calibrate and refocus.
Secondly, you need to identify the most important triggers or barriers. Ask yourself, if that issue was resolved would you still be thinking about breaking up? Life coaching with NLP will help you resolve long term issues and empty your emotional baggage.
Just be clear about one thing. This is about you. This isn't about your other half. If you don't tear down your barriers it is practically guaranteed you will meet the same barriers over and over again. Either in this relationship or the next.
Thirdly, check in with your core values. Are you really living your life according to your highest desires and values? What do you need to do more of? What do you need to stop doing? When could you be more compassionate and tolerant? Where do you need to set boundaries?
If you have been thinking about breaking up after the holidays you are not alone. In fact you are in good company. You hit a wall. You cant stand any more. The dream you had becomes a nightmare. You need to think. What do you really want?
Life coaching sessions will help you re-calibrate and refocus.
Life coaching with NLP will help you resolve long term issues and empty your emotional baggage.
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Life coaching is a journey of self discovery. Your journey starts with your next step. You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the next step. The power of life coaching will unlock your personal power to overcome obstacles that show up while you get to work on your dreams.
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