Understanding the power of gratitude will transform your thoughts, your beliefs, your emotions and even your physical body in just a couple of minutes worth of effort a day. Yes!
Alongside the power of forgiveness, gratitufe is one of the most simple yet effective life coaching tools, that you can apply today.
In this page, you will discover how to integrate transformational practices that could make a world of difference for you.
Cultivating gratitude is highly recommended. In fact, I recommend you complete twice daily. First thing in the morning and last thing at night.
Having an attitude of gratitude is more than simply acknowledging yourself and others for contributing to life's rich tapestry.
It's easy to say "thank you" but far more uplifting to express and immerse yourself fully in the emotional power of gratitude.
You say "thanks" to the person who bought you a gift, or gave you a lift to the airport, but you give thanks on a higher plane.
Being grateful activates the healing power of gratitude.
Fear, loss, sadness, loneliness, anxiety, are all energies sapping the life force away from you. The emotional state of gratitude helps you pull the energy back to be transformed inside you. Energies that are focused outside you can be recovered and restored within you.
Having an attitude of gratitude means you purposefully notice the finer things in life. You witness the nature all around you as beauty. It also means you embrace life's challenges but witness them as lessons to develop your emotional intelligence.
Let me give you an example. I was brought to my knees with anger and frustration at a specific challenge in my life. I always thought I was a resilient person.
I thought I could handle pretty much anything. I allowed things to build up. At first I became angry. Then my anger turned to frustration because at that point I was feeling totally run down. Emotionally drained. Then frustration transformed into fear.
Working one to one with my life coach, I began to uncover hidden shackles that had been holding me back. I uncovered old feelings of anger shame, and guilt that were being triggered. No wonder my nerves were raw.
My coach helped me reframe the challenging emotions to develop compassion. It was like a light being switched on. (Find out how you can cultivate the power of loving kindness in meditation)
Everything changed, and that was when I was overcome with a deep sense of gratitude. I was able to smile again at the situation, even laugh at myself for not recognising the lesson.
That is the healing power of gratitude that enabled me to transform a period of great adversity into a catalyst for my own personal growth.
You can experience the power of gratitude too.
Research reveals that experiencing the state of gratitude paves the way to multiple benefits, including:
Gratitude improves sleep.
Gratitude improves self-esteem.
Gratitude improves relationships.
Gratitude improves physical health.
Gratitude improves psychological health.
Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression.
I am not claiming that the power of gratitude is a new discovery. The importance of expressing gratitude has been written or spoken about since time began.
You can see references to giving thanks throughout the Bible and most other religious texts. This is a fundamental truth dating back to the beginning of time.
The only difference now is that scientists are able to trace the origins and paths of gratitude within the human brain!
I am claiming that you will enhance your daily rituals with the added power of gratitude based practice. Give thanks in all circumstances. Notice the beauty, or, find the true meaning of life's lessons and become grateful.
If you can cultivate an attitude of gratitude in your life and spend some time immersing yourself in the mindfulness of gratitude you will change your life. Period. Making gratitude a practice is the way out of fear. How can you be fearful if you are filled with gratitude?
How can you worry about tomorrow when you are filled with gratitude for today?
Be your own life coach! Here are some powerful life coaching questions to get you started:
What am I most grateful about in my life right now?
What is it about that makes me feel grateful?
How does that make me feel?
Allow each question to elicit all of the gratitude you can attribute to the experience. Notice the sensations in your body as you become deeply grateful. Notice where gratitude starts and moves within you. Notice how it shifts your mind and opens doors to new possibilities.
There are many ways to invoke the power of gratitude. Try these suggestions:
Even if you made a note of two things each day which you were grateful of, by the end of a week you would have fourteen. At the end of a month sixty things to reflect upon with gratitude. Just this one ritual will enhance your life. As you train your mind to think about that which you are grateful for you will manifest more. Then you will experience the power of gratitude for yourself.
Many great note taking apps allow you create individual notebooks for specific purpose. Why not create a folder for your gratitude journal. IA Writer is a great writing app. I use IA writer on my computer and iPad. I love the blank canvas and simplicity of use. In fact I used IA Writer in the creation of every page on this website.
You prefer the experience of a leather bound, or even a hard back journal. Grab your favourite pen and start writing. Of course, your journal doesn't have to be luxurious because the power of gratitude will always be inside you.
Whatever method you prefer, I want you to feel inspired to pick up your journal and write in it. An attitude of gratitude will become a solid habit that serves you for the rest of your life.
A simple yet rewarding practice is expressing gratitude for your body. In your practice express gratitude for these hands, and the ability to touch. These eyes, and the ability to see, these ears, and the ability to hear.
You could incorporate specific events such as a delicious meal and express gratitude for this mouth, that was able to taste the food
this nose that was able to smell the food. Perhaps it was a fresh herb that stood out, or the light charring on the grilled meat.
Become grateful for all the sensations you are able to experience.
Expand your mind to express gratitude for the functions of your internal organs, your heart, your liver, your lungs. Actually, when you bring your attention to organs such as the liver you might stop treating them so badly with charred foods in the first place! Thats the power of gratitude.
You can also turn your attention to gratitude for your external environment. Become grateful for being in this space in this place, with these things around you. Notice what becomes important to you during your practice and how you might make subtle yet impactful improvements to your space.
Then expand your mind to express gratitude for your consciousness. Express gratitude for having the experience of life in moments passed, and in the present moment in this time, in this dimension.
When you really think about it, there is so much you could be grateful for. There is so much to acknowledge and tune in to. Turn your focus to gratitude and watch your fear and anxiety melt away.
What on earth does that mean?
Simply whenever you are practicing any behaviour that requires very little conscious thought you can direct your mind to think about things you are grateful for. It takes No Extra Time (N.E.T.) because you are already invested in the moment. You just use the same time to unleash the power of gratitude to infiltrate and influence your mind.
You could use the time spent showering, brushing your teeth, or even doing the ironing or even mowing the lawn as examples. Use these or other N.E.T. activities to think about and focus upon just three things to be grateful for. Remember to add to your gratitude journal.
I heard an inspiring story of a guy who journaled for a year. Every day he wrote one to three things he was grateful for about his wife. By the end of the year he had journaled everything that he was grateful for. He then wrapped his journal in a beautiful presentation box as a gift for her on their anniversary. You could imagine the impact of such a gift.
As you go through your day make a conscious effort to express thanks for the other people who come in to your life. Not only will it increase the power of gratitude for you, but it will make others feel good too! It's win-win!
In fact, one practice that has blown me away several times is the Pay it Forward game. Help a complete stranger. Don't expect anything in return but gratitude. When they say "how can I ever repay you?" you simply respond "just pay it forward, whenever you are able"
I have done this many times. Random things like paying for a coffee in the coffee shop because someone had forgotten their purse. Paying for shopping in the supermarket when the bill was more than they could afford. I saw someone having to decide between a ready meal and a tin of dog food so I bought them for the person and said "you both need to eat" Their bill was less than ten pounds and I paid it. The person was almost in tears. The checkout assistant was too! I just said, "its ok, just pay it forward whenever you are able to". Guess what, it made me feel good about myself and unbelievably grateful that I was able to afford to help.
Try it for yourself today. Thank somebody for something they did or said, even if it isn't exactly as you would have it. Do a small thing for somebody who could use a little help. It doesn't have to be a huge thing. Just a helping hand would do. Then tell them to pay it forward when they can.
Developing the power of gratitude through practice or habit is worth every ounce of effort. I encourage life coaching clients to build some form of practice into their daily routine, at least for the duration of the coaching period. See The Power of Life Coaching for other suggested practices.
Most carry these habits on, but occasionally I am asked "What if there is nothing to be grateful for?"
The truth is there is always something to be grateful for if you truly look for it. Seek and ye shall find. As a man thinketh so is he.
If nothing comes to mind that you do feel grateful for ask yourself what could you be grateful for. Let those thoughts ruminate.
When you start out your gratitude practice keep it simple. You can challenge yourself later, but for the first few days just bring to mind three things you are grateful for.
If you are really struggling, try visiting a nursing home or volunteering at a homeless food bank. There is always something to be grateful for.
Every day in every way is precious. Never forget that. Never forget to be grateful.
Have you experienced the power of gratitude you felt that a loved one came round after surgery at the hospital? Perhaps a child, or a partner. Who would you be grateful to? The surgeon, the aneasthatist? The scrub nurse? How about the bricklayers who helped build the hospital? The painters who finished the interior? Haven't they all contributed in some way?
Have you ever experienced gratitude for the safe return of a child after they wandered temporarily from your view?
Have you witnessed the deep joy and relief of the return of a soldier from the front line?
Maybe you could be grateful for hearing someone's voice over the telephone, or grateful that something didn't happen that you thought might.
Maybe you are grateful that you have a job, a house, a family, or your health or an income.
I am grateful that you spent your precious time with me by reading this page. I hope you found something of value in the power of gratitude, and that you pay it forward whenever you can, perhaps by sharing The Relationship Breakthrough Coach with your network.
To Your Success
Relationship Breakthrough Coach provides life coaching for men, women and couples in Mossley, Tameside, Uppermill, Saddleworth, and all surrounding areas. I also work with english speaking international clients via Skype and Zoom.
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