Did you know the power of forgiveness can be channeled to transform suffering?
For example if you ever experienced a relationship breakdown or a break up you may be familiar with the emotional turbulence that follows. This is a gift you can give yourself! More importantly, share this gift with anyone you know who has also ever suffered.
Learning about forgiveness was a game changer for me. I now consider it to be one of the major components in life coaching interventions.
Before you go any deeper, here are the seven ways the power of forgiveness will heal suffering and gain freedom:
The weight of emotional residue that we carry around like excess baggage holds us back. It restricts capacity to love and fully appreciate the beauty of each present moment. Moreover, people often have no idea how old emotional baggage can be debilitating. We just go on carrying it around with us.
If you use the power of forgiveness you feel the weight lifting instantly. You are able to breathe again. You enjoy the bliss of travelling light. You regain your freedom.
What does this newfound freedom mean?
You are inspired.
You are re-energised.
You show up differently.
You perform at a higher level.
This doesn't only impact you, but everyone around you.
When you let go of emotional ties people notice. It's like that moment when you acknowledge something different but you cant put your finger on it. That is the power of forgiveness.
It is important to remember that forgiveness does not equal forgetting. If you suffered another's behaviour you do not need to forget in order to forgive. You simply release the past emotion so that it no longer causes you suffering in the present moment.
That is the secret to the power of forgiveness.
Your mind is the result of neural networks that form the pathways for your thoughts. Without these neural pathways, your thoughts would have nowhere to go. Everything you see, hear, smell, taste and touch is received and processed within the neural networks of your mind.
Some pathways are connected to past experiences. The pathways of your thoughts are your blueprints for pleasure and pain. Thoughts are the source of all suffering. Networks are the result of all learning and they create all that you are.
Forgiveness is the power to access internal healing to resolve suffering. When you forgive, you literally re-route and reconstruct neural pathways.
This means that old events no longer trigger suffering as they once did. It's like pulling the fuse on an unexploded device. The weapon still exists, but no harm can come of it.
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself and anyone who you release from your emotional bonds.
The Lords prayer reminds us of the power of forgiveness.
"forgive us our trespasses, As we forgive those who trespass against us"
But why should we forgive them?
Buddha once asked "If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful?"
The Buddha then asked "If the person stayed in the same place only to be struck by a second arrow, is it even more painful?"
Suffering is the emotional effect of the second arrow. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
The first arrow inflicts physical pain which heals and resolves after a short time. The second arrow is a lingering emotional response to the initial pain.
Buddha said "In life, we can’t always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. This second arrow is therefore optional."
If you are still complaining long after the initial cause of suffering has gone you are still emotionally bound by the second arrow. Forgiveness is the key to unlock the chain.
Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself, but it isn't only for you. The Relationship Breakthrough Coach forgiveness process severs energetic ties you created in your own mind. Think about everyone you have ever met. What could it mean to release the emotional bonds between you?
It has been said that you always end up hurting the ones you love. Have you ever wondered why? Maybe why is the wrong question. Perhaps rephrasing to something like "What was your intention? Your highest purpose? Which core value were you trying to meet?"
One of my core life coaching principles is that "people always do the best they can with the resources they have available to them." That includes you.
When you look back upon a situation that is linked to your suffering recognise how your behaviours affected others around you. Realise that under different circumstances, or with newly acquired knowledge they may have behaved differently. But so would you.
Once you are open to forgiveness in a relationship you can also forgive yourself. You can forgive your thought patterns which led to your suffering in the first place. You accept forgiveness both ways.
"I forgive you, do you forgive me?"
Hear a firm, "Yes."
Emotional suffering keeps you energetically bound to the other. You must sever those ties to grow and evolve. At the same time you release them to grow and evolve.
The healing power of forgiveness works both ways.
You are able to forgive an infinite number of arrows and stop the poison taking hold. Wherever, however, or when ever you suffered emotional pain as a result of external influences or trauma there is something to learn.
Life coaching sessions cut through the surface level response and reveal second arrows for what they are. Hypnosis reveals that hidden subconscious layers of the emotion which can often uncover the original sin, the very first arrow. The realisation that that the recent relationship event has very little to do with the current emotion can be life changing.
The very first event was often a long time ago but the poison still remains. Lying dormant until the next event stirs it up and injects it through your neural pathways.
What does the first arrow teach you when you look at it with fresh perspective? What purpose did the emotional response serve? What was its highest intention?
Learning the secondary benefit or gain from behaviours leads you to re-evaluate and reset the pathways. Now you have the power of forgiveness at your fingertips.
When you deeply connect with your higher consciousness through searching and discovery of the original arrow you come to a realisation that the event was a gift for your development.
Imagine those old neural pathways that created pain in your life disappearing as you obliterate the old and lay down new pathways to the emotional freedom you want. That is the fast-track to a relationship breakthrough.
Can you feel the power of gratitude? They were only a friendly soul come to serve your highest needs.
Now it is time to let go of all the layers of emotional defences you built up. Put down the baggage. You can release it.
Relationship breakthrough life coaching is about releasing emotional bonds. Let me explain:
Do you know anyone who suffered heartache from a relationship break up?
What do they talk about?
What do they think about?
How are they feeling?
Notice all the arrows. The first arrow lands in the moment of discovery that the relationship is over. The rest are just the effects of the poison in your heart. The arrows aren't exclusive to intimate relationships. They could be drawn from friends and family, social or professional life.
Are there poisoned arrows impacting your life?
Experience of forgiveness in a relationship is the antidote. You need an antidote in order to grow. Forgiveness allows you to tap into your highest values and bring you back into alignment.
What is the higher meaning of that situation, the positive learning that will allow you to let go and move on?
Everything outside of you only exists because of the pathways you create in your mind. Perception is projection. That which you resist, persists.
The final key to the power of forgiveness is the principle that you must forgive yourself. This is purely internal. You forgive them and they forgive you. You are only forgiving a part of yourself anyway.
That's how to completely sever emotional ties that hold you back. The energetic bonds you carry around are yours, not theirs. Once they are released you can commit to a new future.
Imagine the release of dropping the emotional baggage you have been carrying around your years. Even to put it down for one minute and just observe how liberating your life could be. The breakthrough occurs in these moments.
We are all one in this incredible infinite universe. If you cannot allow love there is still a part that you do not love in yourself.
Seven Ways The Power Of Forgiveness Will Heal Suffering and Gain Freedom:
You can decide to create a brand new path with the power of forgiveness.
This is just one small step along the relationship breakthrough coaching program.
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