Have you experienced the healing power of forgiveness in relationships?

Discover how the power of forgiveness can transform your relationship breakdown or break up into a breakthrough! The power is really experienced in the lifting of energetic emotional energy that we carry around like baggage. Learning about forgiveness is one of the major keys to a healthy relationship and always forms part of our coaching programs.

  • Who in your life has done wrong by you?
  • Who in your life has caused suffering?
  • Who in your life has brought hurt?
  • How long have you carried this emotional baggage?
  • How long are you prepared to go on carrying it?

I forgive you, do you forgive me?

These were some of the most powerful words I spoke during a closed eye breakthrough process at a highly recommended personal development seminar called "Breakthrough To Success." This is one the entry level programs by Christopher Howard and I have attended several of Chris's events. In fact, I am honoured to say I also joined the support crew at a couple of the events held in London. Sadly, that particular program is not currently available in the UK, but the good news is, you can enrol for his online event from anywhere in the world! 

I am not kidding you when I say that not a dry eye was left in the room of over a thousand people going through the forgiveness process together. Forgiveness is something I encourage and facilitate with our clients as part of the one to one, or couples relationship coaching packages. I cannot say specifically how using this will impact you, but I can relate how powerful, moving and liberating it was for me to really let go of the negative emotional energy I had been holding on to. 

You hurt the ones you love

It has been said for generation after generation that you always end up hurting the ones you love, but have you ever given it a further thought why? In Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) you are taught several key coaching principles that the basis of change is based upon. I share these with anyone making an enquiry about coaching with us. One of those coaching principles is that people always do the best they can with the resources they currently have available to them. From this position your ability to forgive others and also forgive yourself can flow much more easily. 

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Know Yourself as Forgiveness

There is a beautiful story by Neale Donald Walsch called "The Little Soul In The Sun." Walsch suggests that at some level we are experiencing this life of being human in order to learn the lesson of forgiveness. It really is recommended reading for you and especially your children. The soul could be a little boy, or a little girl, it doesn't matter, but I will relate to the soul in the masculine for the purpose of the story.

In the story, the Little Soul says to God that he wants to know himself as forgiveness. At that moment, a friendly soul comes along and says she will help. In order to complete the learning, in the moment of something awful happening, the little soul has to recognise who the friendly soul really is. Otherwise, he will be bound to repeat the lesson until another friendly soul appears to release them.

Has this lesson played out in your own life? It is a powerful lesson. Consider the times when you perceived something that happened to you was awful. What if that was just part of your soul agreement before you even came here? 

The story serves as a reminder to us, that people we meet are just like the friendly soul who once agreed to help us learn the power of forgiveness.

Forgiving Yourself

One of the key aspects to forgiving is the principle that you must also forgive yourself. You can forgive and be forgiven, and that's the way to let go of emotional ties that will hold you back. The emotional energetic bond you carry around the event or the behaviour is yours, not the other persons, so you really are forgiving a part of yourself anyway.

Try this:

Think of a person with whom you may have a negative emotional bond. For now, keep it simple, recent.

Just imagine that person, bring them into your mind and fully ask for their forgiveness internally as you fully forgive them with the phrase: "I forgive you, do you forgive me?"

I want you to notice a clear, strong "Yes!" Hold on to the thought until you actually see, hear, feel or experience them saying yes.

The power of forgiveness is in releasing the energetic bond with that person which means you are both free to grow and evolve. Give yourself the permission to experience this freedom now. Acknowledge yourself for a great job!

Imagine the power of lifting all the emotional baggage from over the years of relationship challenges that you have been carrying. Even to put it down for one minute and see how liberating your life could be is a breakthrough in itself. This is just one step in the relationship coaching program. 

“Don't let anybody walk through your mind with dirty feet." - Gandhi

Ho'oponopono

The Powerful Huna Forgiveness Process

Huna is an ancient Hawaiian spiritual healing method and there is plenty of material available to research if you feel inclined. In Huna there is a process known as Ho'oponopono which is specifically based around the power of forgiveness, and not just in relationship crisis. 


Ho'oponopono essentially means "to make it right with the ancestors." It's a great tool to use when seeking forgiveness in relationships and eliminating energetic emotional ties.

Simply bring the person to mind with whom there may have been an unsupportive energetic bond and say the following to yourself:

I am sorry

Please forgive me

I love you

Thank you

If you practise anything like this, even over a short period of time, you will notice the difference in yourself. I am not saying the world will change around you, but you will. You will become lighter, more tolerant, more patient. You will also notice less friction around you. Think about it. Even the Christian Lords Prayer speaks of forgiveness:

"Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses,

As we forgive those who trespass against us"

"Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses,

As we forgive those who trespass against us"

Experience the power of forgiveness

Your mind is full of neural networks that are like pathways for your thoughts to follow. Forgiveness is the mechanism that allows you to access personal power to resolve the past. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself and the other who will be released from your emotional energetic bonds.

Wherever, however, or when ever your first experience being triggered by the behaviour of a significant other in your life I will work with you to create a cleansing meditation that releases the energetic ties and frees you both. Those ties need to be deactivated as we search your subconscious address book for the key to unlock any unsupportive frequencies. 

Imagine those old neural pathways that created pain in your life disappearing as you obliterate that old short cut and lay down new pathways to the emotional freedom you want. 

If that sounds like a fit for you I recommend working through the personal breakthrough process to begin with. Your forgiveness process will be amazing. I absolutely love this process, and clients do too. Then you can look forward to a brighter future with more exciting personal goals to build on that momentum. 

Nothing breeds success like success. The deeper you ingrain your new pathways to success the easier it will be to take that pathway. You can work through a series of results focused sessions, or you can apply the breakthrough process to any other challenge you may be facing. It's entirely up to you. 

All my coaching relationships are confidential. Working through emotions can be a deeply private experience. If the only thing holding you back is fear that you may reveal something shocking, or even shameful, get excited. Your fear means that your breakthrough will be even more powerful for you.

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