Top Ten Life Coaching Tips For Improving Communication In Relationships

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Have you mastered the art of communication in relationships?

Communication is a common cause of breakdown but doesn't always mean relationship break-up. There are different styles of communication and different rules in relationships. If your style mis-matches your partners there could be trouble ahead.

This free article reveals my top ten life coaching secrets for improving communication in a relationships. Improve your communication skills in relationships to transform a relationship breakdown into a breakthrough.

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The Importance Of Communication In Relationships

How important is communication in relationships on a scale of one to ten, ten being the most important?

When you go to work, you change your style of communication to meet the needs of the person you are speaking with. If you want to negotiate a deal or pursuade someone into action you communicate to meet the needs of your business. If you are public speaking you meet the needs of your audience.

Yet there comes a time when communication in relationships falls flat. No wonder people break up when they cant talk to each other any more. They cant meet the needs of their partner.

Imagine for a moment that in a dream you cannot communicate with your partner. Dream as if your partner speaks a completely different language that you have never encountered before. Notice how this thought feels.

In the dream, your partner is in mortal danger and you are trying to warn them. They don't understand you. Your words have no meaning to them. You try waving your arms, but they just wave right back at you. You cant get through to them.

Is this a dream or a nightmare?

What would you give to be able to warn your partner and free them from danger?

How important is communication in relationships on a scale of one to ten, ten being the most important?

Common Problems With Communication In Relationships

There are common problems with communication in relationships that create disharmony. This list is not exhaustive and maybe you could add some of your own. Toxic relationships or anywhere there is abuse could have a whole new dimension. This list of problems with communication in relationships is not about narcissistic behaviour either. This is about when two people in a relationship just can't seem to get along.

Not listening to a word you say

Not understanding the impact of what you say

Not being fully present with you

Abusive Or toxic language

Poor or incongruent non verbal communication

Constantly interrupting you

Making inappropriate assumptions

Only partially listening to you

Being distracted or changing the subject

Over reacting to make irrational conclusions

Minimising to make it seem that you are overreacting

Showing no compassion

Constantly ridiculing or demonising you

Catastrophising everything you say

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Rules Of Communication In Relationships

If you want to know somebodies rules of communication in relationships you need to listen closely. Notice the key phrases they prefer and you will have an insight to their representational systems.

In a business relationship you might hear phrases like,

"lets take a look and see what we can come up with"
"It sounds like we are on the same wavelength"
"we need to get a grip so this opportunity doesn't slip away"
"I have an idea I'd like to know what you think"

Fairly common language patterns that reveal a little more than the meaning of the words alone.

In intimate relationships you might hear something like

"Im sick and tired of shifting your stuff"
"I can just see us in the hammock watching the stars come out"
"I cant wait to tell you what I heard today"
"Thats music to my ears"
"Oh my god I love it! I cant wait to see how it feels on"

For instance do they like to visualise, sound things out, or get a feel for things?

The active listening skill is to notice the cues. Are they in visual auditory kinaesthetic or auditory digital mode? And secondly in what order?

If you know the preferred representational system and the correct sequence, and you respond in kind, your levels of rapport can go through the roof. Now I dont know if you just felt a rush of energy rising up, or you saw the tiles blowing off or you heard something crashing through. That's your preference.

You knew you had one right?

Guess what. It's unique to you. Your partners is unique to them. Two worlds collide. You either making sweet music or a deafening cacophony.

Styles Of Communication In Relationships

What style of communication do you use with your partner?
Do you become lazy and just stay with your own preferences or do you make an effort to work out what is their preferred style?

In the beginning you just throw the book at them because something sticks and you get your connection. You start to see things eye to eye. You cant wait to hear their ringtone and listen to their voice on your phone. You get butterflies just thinking about holding their hand or even touching them. You hit every representational system and overwhelm the senses.

What style of communication do they use with you?
Have they mastered yours?
Do they hit the nail every time?
Do they hit the right note?
Are you opening your eyes to what you are learning here?

How would you like to improve your communication to meet their most intimate love strategies in a relationship?

Improving Communication In Relationships

Pulling it all together if you are just making a start in a relationship or pulling it together after a couple of hurdles:

Actively listening.

Communicating on purpose.

Knowing your outcomes!

These three steps are critical to overcoming communication problems in relationships. Many people fall apart simply because they wont make the effort. That's good. Let them go. If they dont want to make an effort they aren't worth yours anyway. Move on with passion.

However, if you both want to make the effort take a look at life coaching for couples. This could be the most important breakthrough you make this year.

Know their subconscious communication preferences. 

Meet their needs.

These are two key skills used in sales that will also dramatically improve communication in relationships.

Understand their core values.

Understand their goals and dreams.

Believe in them more than they believe in themselves.

Beliefs are merely barriers waiting to be broken. If you can someone see beyond their barriers you can inspire, motivate and transform anyone who is determined to achieve their goals. 

Finally the last two steps of my "Top Ten Life Coaching Tips For Improving Communication In Relationships"

Believe in yourself. There is always a way. Vulnerability is a beautiful thing when it is expressed in order to be overcome but don't stay in vulnerability. Thats just being needy. Having self belief is also a beautiful thing. Just be realistic and people will believe in you too.

Take action to improve. Dont judge yourself on others. Judge yourself against who you were yesterday. Everyone experiences highs and lows and either way they pass. Don't dwell in sorrow and don't gloat in success. Take stock and take steps to keep the momentum going.  

Find someone who gets you. Who you get. Communication in relationships is effortless when you have rapport.


To Your Success!

Tony

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Relationship Breakthrough Coach provides life coaching in Mossley, Tameside, Uppermill, Saddleworth, and all surrounding areas. Sessions are available for men, women and couples who are ready to transform their health wealth and relationships.

Life coaching is a journey of self discovery. Your journey starts with the next step. You don't have to see the whole staircase. Just take the next step.

The power of life coaching will unlock your personal power to overcome obstacles that show up while you get to work on your dreams.

I sincerely hope you find what you were looking for. 

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